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The sizeable show emotional
kind troubles and sometimes real mental disturbs. The adhesion to destructive
cults, for example, lasting a distortion in a relationship, eases the
structuring of physical and mental problems (it starts manifesting psychosomatic
problems, nourishment disorders till getting to psychotic kind disturbs,
chronic depression, alcoholism...). Several are the attempts of making
suicide, specially because the victim often does not feel supported
in his pain by anybody, does not find the way out and thinks that the
guilt of his responsibility is only his.
The causes of divorce
are different, especially when the other partner is still inside the
cult. The causes are not easy especially when there are children.
Victims assert that
they do not succeed in bringing in their work or engagement in the daily
life, they feel shame and they still have feelings of guilt even if
at distance of time. Once one of them asserted that he felt guilty for
having wasted 20 years of his life in a cult, years he lived not living.
Victim's relatives, especially those of the adherents of destructive
cults, and that are who more easily apply for the help centres, develop
a sort of co-dependence relationship with their relative that is the
adept. After several beginning experiences of failure when they attempted
to solve the situation by themselves, they trend to deny the fact, when
they are in front of their relative trapped, they lie to not face the
situation. Most of them apply us for help to receive a miracle more
than moved by the desire to engage seriously in the attempts of recovering.
Some of them contact all the associations and professional they heard
about on newspaper or TV, in Italy or abroad, and they send all them
at the same time petitions of help. This way they turn the intervention
action much more complex, due to the waste of energy. The victims' relatives
too develop psychosomatic diseases due to the disturbs related to the
stress the live daily.
Help
and recovering methods
During our experience
we have developed methodologies, even more specific for help and recover
from psychological abuse. Victims contact our operators whose task is
that to check the kind of petition and according to cases sending them
to the most adequate professional (physician, psychologist, psychotherapist,
psychiatrist, lawyer, pedagogist). It belongs to our group also the
former victims that are on disposal in the several phases of recovering
with their personal experience within the specific ambit.
Once taken in charge,
everyone is required to write a memorial concerning their own experience,
that helps both them and operators to focus rationally their past history.
When the several users
are taken in charge by the experts, some of them receive at the same
time emotional support by the help-help groups. The help groups are
places where processing ones' own recovering, talking about the past
trauma with individuals that had the same experience and that have been
trained to give them support.
From January 2000 it
has been established a help-help group for the victims of destructive
cults, to which 15 person adhered. Thanks to the success of this initiative
on September it will be established other groups for the victim of destructive
cults and mobbing victims and their relatives.
When victims succeed
in solving their problem, they develop new ways to communicate with
themselves and others and have recovered their trust in neighbour, the
sizeable times they want to offer their experience on others' benefit.
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